Date Night Come Enjoy an Evening of Closeness With Your Partner.

Have Fun Learning Skills to Enhance your Relationships.

Experience
   Empowerment
   Understanding
   Commitment
   Support
   Forgiveness
   Love and Appreciation
Enjoy:
   Nurturing
   Emotional Intimacy

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This class generally the Second Friday of Each Month 7-9 pm

Please RSVP via phone 208-887-6283 or sign up HERE.

845 E. Fairview Suite #120

Meridian, Idaho 83642

Call or see Website for directions.

Next class is Friday 13, August, 2010

September class is changed to the Third Friday as I will be out of Town the second. Come join us for the September class on Friday the 17th of September.

October class is back on track for Friday the 8th.

As a hypnotherapist it is easy to understand a quote I found a statement in the book The Divided Mind by John E. Sarno, M.D. that I really like. In it regarding to learning about the mind body connection he states: “Indeed, learning about the unconscious mind should be part of our educational systems, for it is fully as important as reading, writing, and arithmetic.” (p.150)

Having done hypnotherapy for about 16 years now I agree with this statement as being like a mechanic trying to diagnose and work on an engine with out ever looking under the hood is like trying to understand human behavior without an understanding of the unconscious mind. When a mechanic looks under the hood, the engine can then be observed, tweaked and adjusted. With an understanding of the unconscious mind one goes through all life experiences with greater awareness and understanding and is able to make effective adjustments that are quicker and longer lasting.

As a medical doctor he further explains that if one does not respond to medical treatment, they need to dig out from the unconscious the psychological blocks to a restoration of health.
He states: “Failure to improve is the indication of therapy. Such therapy implies that the reasons for the internal feelings are strong and will not respond to simple recognition. Many patients will deny the existence of rage, for example, at a parent. Others are unable to feel sadness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and son on. It is clear that the therapist must be dynamically (analytically) trained to recognize and work with these problems, and the process is often prolonged.”

To speak more of this, I regularly find myself in my counseling office explaining to my clients that feelings and emotions are to be recognized and experienced fully to be fully alive and functioning as a healthy, happy human being. It’s like breathing, we need to breath in deeply taking all the breath we can and then to breath out exhaling completely for our greatest health. We most often cut off our breath and cut off our feelings and emotions which build up pockets and reservoirs of emotions with in us that spill out in other places and times of our living where not congruent with the present and many times causing damage.
To avoid causing damage I am learning that one emotion we want to have spill over through out all areas of our living is gratitude.
Thank you, for reading thus far and come back for more thoughts again. Your comments are also appreciated. Have a Great Day!

Rod

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“We have met the Enemy! He is thus.”

S/He whom is not flexible will be bent out of shape.

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” –Leo Tolstoy
How often do we work so hard to change our “world” by attempting to change our spouse rather than ourselves?
It has also been said that: “Adversity is just change we haven’t adapted to yet.” (by Aimee Mullen)
Zig Ziglar remarked, “You are free to choose, but the choices you make today will determine what you will have, be, and do in the tomorrow of your life.” Indeed, our lives (and our relationships! )are a sum total of the choices we make.
Consider this; Adversity gives us a sense of self, a sense of our own power.
Adversity more than tough times creates change.

Often in a relationship when adversity comes in a relationship we feel so powerless. It is in the state of powerlessness that we choose to become better or bitter. If one is not committed s/he will become bitter and blame and withdraw from the relationship. If we are committed in the relationship one will then choose to learn and become better focusing on being forgiving and grateful.

Though one may initially trigger into bitterness it is the choice of action after in the long run that can triumph.

Studies about marriage show that one of the four principles of habits in a successful relationship are the “repair attempts” one makes upon realizing that a conflict or misunderstanding has occurred. [ Dr. John Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999)]

Some examples of repair attempts are: ( and notice generally each are invitations not demands.

Appropriate Humor
A love letter, note or gift
saying “I’m sorry.”
“Let’s take a break.”
“Wait, I need to calm down a little before we continue.”
“Please listen to me.
“Please let me finish and I promise to give you a turn”
“That hurt my feelings.”
“I love you.”
“I understand you feel…”
“O.K. Maybe you’re right.”
“Can we compromise?”

Generally I disagree with Charles Darwin’s conclusions of life yet here is a quote I really agree with.
“It’s not the strongest of the species that survives, nor is it the most intelligent, but it is the one that is most adaptable to change.
The human ability to survive and flourish is driven by the struggle of the human spirit through conflict into transformation.
Until we’re tested we don’t know what we’re made of.”

Here are some more thoughts to consider:
On a plaque that hung in Mother Teresa’s Calcutta orphanage, Kent Keith wrote the following words:

People are often unreasonable and self-centered,
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you.
Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.

Peace, love and success in your relationship.

Rod

As a hypnotherapist it is easy to understand that I really like a quote I found in the book The Divided Mind by John E. Sarno, M.D.. In it regarding to learning about the mind body connection he states: “Indeed, learning about the unconscious mind should be part of our educational systems, for it is fully as important as reading, writing, and arithmetic.” (p.150)

Having done hypnotherapy for about 15 years now I agree with this statement as being like a mechanic trying to diagnose and work on an engine with out ever looking under the hood is like trying to understand human behavior without an understanding of the unconscious mind. When a mechanic looks under the hood, the engine can then be observed, tweaked and adjusted. With an understanding of the unconscious mind one goes through all life experiences with greater awareness and understanding and is able to make effective adjustments that are quicker and longer lasting.

As a medical doctor he further explains that if one does not respond to medical treatment, they need to dig out from the unconscious the psychological blocks to a restoration of health.
He states: “Failure to improve is the indication of therapy. Such therapy implies that the reasons for the internal feelings are strong and will not respond to simple recognition. Many patients will deny the existence of rage, for example, at a parent. Others are unable to feel sadness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and so on. It is clear that the therapist must be dynamically (analytically) trained to recognize and work with these problems, and the process is often prolonged.”

To speak more of this, I regularly find myself in my counseling office explaining to my clients that feelings and emotions are to be recognized and experienced fully to be fully alive and functioning as a healthy, happy human being. It’s like breathing, we need to breath in deeply taking all the breath we can and then to breath out exhaling completely for our greatest health. We most often cut off our breath and cut off our feelings and emotions which build up pockets and reservoirs of emotions with in us that spill out in other places and times of our living where not congruent with the present and many times causing damage.
To avoid causing damage I am learning that one emotion we want to have spill over through out all areas of our living is gratitude.
Thank you, for reading thus far and come back for more thoughts again. Your comments are also appreciated. Have a Great Day!

Rod

The reality that our emotions come and go is why you and I and everyone need to act nice and respectful all the time so we can enjoy those moments and times to the fullest when feelings are good and sweet.

It’s the commitment that shows love and keeps one in a marriage.

Her story to the young mother was her waking up one morning and seeing her husband in his holly underwear—and thinking to herself—that’s not romantic, and the kids noisy and fussing in the background and you don’t feel like you want any of what is around you. So that is why it is important to ACT like you are madly in love by fixing your hair and putting on your makeup to feel good doing all you can to prime the moments with Love because the feelings come and go. By priming the moments you will have many more of them and more intensely counter balancing the real life challenges that are constantly all around.
I interviewed several couples that had been married over 50 years. Their interviews will be posted later this year sometime. What I wanted to mention here was that focusing on how to make things work and not even considering divorce with the commitment to stay together no matter what needed to be learned was the key to their success in creating a happy and lasting marriage.

Thanks for sharing your time. I hope my sharing is helpful.

Rod Limb

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Over the months before Rod moved out of the area, I enjoyed and appreciated his council in all aspects of life projects, including occasional insights in his specialty: marriage and interpersonal relationships.

I find Rod to be patient, accepting, understanding, tolerant and wise. In knowing him as a friend as well as a colleague, I was aware of some of his personal beliefs and standards. Even though this was the case, I was comfortable sharing aspects of myself which were not in accordance with him. I never felt judged in any way. To the contrary, I felt that he was genuinely interested in the unique aspects that made me who I am.

One thing that I appreciated about Rod was that he would patiently listen to my B.S. (Basic Story), then draw my attention back to my goals and commitments, reminding me that they trumped the momentary challenges and setbacks.

I highly recommend Rod as a Life Coach and Professional Counselor.

Bruce W. Chenoweth
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